When Things Got Real Good

Last night I shared with a friend how good our marriage became when I stopped trying to change Bobby. In the beginning I unconsciously tried to control things repeating generational patterns that had been modeled to me, all stemming from a place of fear.

As I became conscious of my behaviors I pursued healing like a starving animal. In the process I watched my husband come to life and begin to thrive in the ways I had always longed for.

Fear and control never serve us, they actually attract exactly what it is we don’t want.

If we are willing to look within and do our work it’s amazing how much change it will bring not only in us but also to those around us. I believe that everything we long for in relationships and in life comes out of a place of freedom.